Choose your words and choose how you use them

"Money and success don t change people; they merely amplify what is already there." - Will Smith Zig Zigler states that one needs to feed the mind to be successful. He goes on in his writings and training to state that one needs to feed it with the right type of things so that one will be prepared for opportunities that will present themself everyday. One can not "get" ready for what comes every day. One must be "ready". Below is a blog posted on Idol Chatter http://blog.beliefnet.com/idolchatter/2007/12/hitler-meant-well-will-smith-s.html It addresses something in the news and the talk shows currently. As with other "Thoughts for the Day" this is not about agreeing or disagreeing but about learning about how the use of words and communication is such an uncertain science and must be something that is continuely worked on by everyone. No one is immune from saying something that "could have been said better." As I always have said ,"I love to eat but the one thing I hate to eat is my words.!" Read below and see the linguistical gymnnastics that are being done by people over Will Smith's words. What do you think he meant? How could he have said his thoughts better? Then notice at the end what some of the postings are and how the semantical word games continue... Power Word for today: Pusillanimous (pyoo-suh-LAN-uh-muhs) adj. - cowardly Example: Gary's robbery of the Orphans Fund was a PUSILLANIMOUS act if there ever was one. Here is a quote from Will Smith. The words are well chosen here...but any time and any place either we can say the wrong thing or be misunderstood... Money and success don t change people; they merely amplify what is already there." - Will Smith Log in Category: Celebrities Hitler Meant Well: Will Smith Speaks and We Wish He Didn't Oy vey. Every time actors speak I find myself holding my breath and hoping that what they'll say will resemble one of the moving, well-written speeches that they deliver during the roles they've taken on in their lifetime. As it turns out, those speeches are crafted by experienced people (I believe they're called "writers," or at least they are when they're not striking) who know how to turn a phrase, and directed by other experienced people who are called "directors." Or sometimes, those emotional moments are brokered by a James Lipton or Barbara Walters or Oprah or Ellen, to get actors to discover the wonderful inner workings of their own minds, to entertaining effect for the audience. Often, these celebrities become spokespeople for wonderful philanthropic causes that help people all over the world, and they should be praised for devoting part of a significant fortune and pulpit to good works. But woe, alas and alack, sometimes it might have been better if the celebrity had said nothing at all. For instance, a recent combination of Will Smith+Scotland=a possible boycott of "I Am Legend," when the former fresh prince made the following opinion known. Smith says he doesn't believe, quote, "Hitler didn't wake up going, "let me do the most evil thing I can do today," adding that Hitler was trying to do what he thought was good, though his mind used "a twisted, backward logic." Do I believe that Will Smith is an anti-Semite? No. Will I never look at his movies the same way again, like what happened in the wake of Mel Gibson's trip to Crazytown? No. Will I insist, as the local JDL is, that Hollywood "shun any future projects involving Smith." Clearly not. But do I find it surprising that Smith would invoke Hitler, the most hated, and most acknowledgedly-evil human to have walked the planet (at least in recent memory) through a haze of attempted comprehension? Uh-huh. The report continues that "Smith himself is angry at the way critics have interpreted his words" [I bet he is] "saying there's no way they should be read to imply that he believes Hitler was anything but "a vile, heinous vicious killer." Good. We all agree. Let's move on. And please, celebrities...whether you yell at Matt Lauer for the evils of meds-prescribing psychologists or try to understand Hitlerian logic, even as an intellectual exercise that challenges the concepts of good and evil, I implore you: think before you speak. Comments (22) Now notice the some of the semantical workings on Smith's thoughts and the commentary on them...go to BeliefNet for more postings... http://blog.beliefnet.com/idolchatter/2007/12/hitler-meant-well-will-smith-s.html Below are some of the 22 comments already posted about the above blog:I really feel for Will Smith right now. I often have my beliefs interperted incorrectly also. But thankfully, mine aren't usually distorted in front of the whole world.He never once said he agreed with or condoned Hitler's actions. He only took the time and wisdom to look at the situation a little deeper. It's very very easy to say that Hitler was pure evil and that's just that. I believe there was an unbelievable amount of evil working in Hitler's heart. But I do not believe he was born that way. I don't know what happened, but something happened. Now before you say "We all have bad things happen to us, and we don't go out and commit genocide." But that's a very simplistic view. Many people are molested as children. Some grow up to be child molestors themselves, and some grow up to be childrens advocates. There is no black & white cut & dry answers to things like these. I will probably get blasted for this, but I believe the real spiritual leaders of our world (Jesus, Ghandi, etc.) would find forgiveness for him. You can forgive and try to understand people and horrific situations without condoning reprehensible (sp?) actions or suggesting that their actions should not have consequences.Acid destroys the container it's kept in. Meaning, forgiveness is always the path to emotional and spiritual freedom. Furthermore, the acid inside Hitler will do more damage to him than anything anyone else could inflict upon him.Namaste'. Posted by: Melanie December 27, 2007 10:26 AM I would be very interested in a definition of Good from Will Smith. I have never been that impressed with the intellect of celebrities and this comment reaffirms my belief that intelligence is not a requirement for working in film. Perhaps Will should read a history book, a dictionary might be helpful. Posted by: beth December 27, 2007 10:27 AM I agree. The Comments aren't shocking, and actually are corect. Hitler didn't wake up and decide to be evil, and didn't see himself as evil. Will Smith didn't say Hitler wasn't evil, he just said Hitler was in his own mind, not evil. So choose your words and choose how you use them by working each day to feed your mind... Richard Reynolds M.Div., M.Ed. ,Ed.S. ...give a man a fish feed him for a day, teach him to fish feed him for a life time...

A tip to help you be more effective with Adolescents

Hand Gestures Dramatically Improve Learning ScienceDaily (Jul. 28, 2007) — Kids asked to physically gesture at math problems are nearly three times more likely than non-gesturers to remember what they've learned. In the journal Cognition, a University of Rochester scientist suggests it's possible to help children learn difficult concepts by providing gestures as an additional and potent avenue for taking in information. "We've known for a while that we use gestures to add information to a conversation even when we're not entirely clear how that information relates to what we're saying," says Susan Wagner Cook, lead author and postdoctoral fellow at the University. "We asked if the reverse could be true; if actively employing gestures when learning helps retain new information." It turned out to have a more dramatic effect than Cook expected. In her study, 90 percent of students who had learned algebraic concepts using gestures remembered them three weeks later. Only 33 percent of speech-only students who had learned the concept during instruction later retained the lesson. And perhaps most astonishing of all, 90 percent of students who had learned by gesture alone--no speech at all--recalled what they'd been taught. Cook used a variation on a classic gesturing experiment. When third graders approach a two-sided algebra equation, such as "9+3+6=__+6" on a blackboard, they will likely try to solve it in the simple way they have always approached math problems. They tend to think in terms of "the equal sign means put the answer here," rather than thinking that the equal sign divides the problem into two halves. As a result, children often completely ignore the final "+6." However, even when children discard that final integer, they will often point to it momentarily as they explain how they attacked the problem. Those children who gestured to the number, even though they may seem to ignore it, are demonstrating that they have a piece of information they can't reconcile. Previous work has shown that the children with that extra bit of disconnected knowledge are the ones ready to learn, which suggests that perhaps giving children extra information in their gesture could lead to their learning. Cook divided 84 third and fourth graders into three groups. One group expressed the concept verbally without being allowed to use gestures. The second group was allowed to use only gestures and no speech, and the third group employed both. Teachers gave all the children the same instruction, which used both speech and gesture. After three weeks, the children were given regular in-school math tests. Of those children who had learned to solve the problem correctly, only a third of the speech-only students remembered the principles involved, but that figure rose dramatically for the speech-and-gesture, and the gesture-only group, to 90-percent retention. "My intuition is that gestures enhance learning because they capitalize on our experience acting in the world," says Cook. "We have a lot of experience learning through interacting with our environment as we grow, and my guess is that gesturing taps into that need to experience." Cook plans to look into how gesturing could be implemented effectively in classrooms to make a noticeable improvement in children's learning. "Gesturing does have one clear benefit," Cook adds. "It's free." Adapted from materials provided by University of Rochester. Need to cite this story in your essay, paper, or report? Use one of the following formats: APA MLA University of Rochester (2007, July 28). Hand Gestures Dramatically Improve Learning. ScienceDaily. Retrieved November 29, 2007, from http://www.sciencedaily.com­ /releases/2007/07/070725105957.htm

Jump Start.org Tips

What is the best way to help a good reader master the confusion they have with b's and d's? Here are some suggestions that approach the challenge of differentiating b from d in different ways: Practice the difference between the letters in a physical game. Let your child practice these letters by writing with their finger tips on different surfaces. Cover a counter top with whipped cream or chocolate pudding. Demonstrate the letters and let the child practice to their hearts content. Give your child a visual cue for each letter. The b can be drawn as a bat with a ball next to it. The d can be drawn as a dog with a tail. This visual will help your child to remember the shape of each letter and be connected to a picture that uses its sound. Play with sounds and hear the differences between the two letters. We recommend using the Letter Book inside My Cabin in JumpStart World. Your child can turn to any letter page and experience the letters by listening to the letter sounds, hearing the sounds in alliterative songs, recording the sounds and songs with their own voices, and finally decorating a letter page with stickers of words that all start with that beginning sound. Make a letter collage by finding pictures of words that start with the sound b or d. Draw the shape of the letter on a large sheet of paper. Then help your child find as many examples of words beginning with the sound as possible and paste them onto the letter collage. Hang the picture on the wall as a reward and a reminder. These ideas work for learning all letters and sounds, and especially the letters that look alike!

Parenting Tips that are chances for learning

Top Parent Tips Weighty IssuesThe next time you bring home groceries, help your child compare the weights of different items. For example, have your child hold a can of baked beans in one hand and a box of taco shells in the other. Which is heavier? Which is lighter? Is the heavier item always the larger item? Topsy-TurvyDraw these images on squares of paper: E, L, 3, J, >, K, /, P. Repeat so that there are two of each. Let your child put the images in a sack, shake the sack, and then remove the images. Can your child find the image pairs and rotate them so that they look exactly the same? (To simplify the activity, use only a few images at a time.) Name a NumberAsk your child to name a number between 1 and 6. Give your child that number of pennies. Repeat the activity, but this time, give your child nickels. Can your child count out all the pennies and nickels and tell you the total value? Triple TossMake a score sheet by writing the numbers 3 through 18 down the side of a sheet of paper. Then take turns with your child tossing three dice and adding. Initial the answer on the score sheet (unless it has already been initialed). Who can initial the most answers? Guess the CategoryName different items of clothing, continuing until your child can guess the category. Repeat the activity, but this time name items from a different category: furniture, fruits, vegetables, animals, rooms, plants, or things that use electricity.

Grants make opportunities possible!

Doing more of what doesn't work won't make it work any better. -Charles Givens

Doing more of the same thing and expecting different results has been given as a definition for insanity! If we are going to provide more than hollow words for the children and adolescents of today then we must attempt to think of different ways and try different methods to allow the opportunities to be present for every child to have the best chance possible to reach their full potential.

One way that many are scared away from is looking for Grants and other financial resources to make opportunities possible. One of the top sites that most foundations and corporate funding sources will recommend is the Foundation Center at:

http://foundationcenter.org.

Some of the current items listed at the Foundation Center are:

1) Target Foundation Accepting Grant Applications for Minneapolis

2) Alzheimer's Drug Discovery Foundation Seeks Research Proposals Targeting Fronto-Temporal Dementia

3) Retirement Research Foundation Accepting Grant Applications for General Program

4) Do Something Offering Weekly Grants for Young Social Entrepreneurs

5) National Gardening Association Invites Entries for the Youth Garden Grants Program 6) Open Society Institute Seeks Letters of Inquiry for Sentencing & Incarceration Alternatives

7) Brown Rudnick Charitable Foundation Unveils New Grant Program Designed to Help Inner-City Educators

8) Entries Sought for MetLife Foundation Community College Excellence Award

9) Greening Initiative Grants Program to Fund Programs in Maryland's Urban Communities

10) Sidney Hillman Foundation Journalism Awards to Honor Social Justice Work

11) American Lung Association and National Sleep Foundation Launch Fellowship Award

12) American Health Assistance Foundation Invites Letters of Intent for Macular Degeneration Research

13) American Management Association and Leader to Leader Institute Announce New Scholarship Program for Nonprofit Leaders

14) Entries Invited for Peter F. Drucker Award for Nonprofit Innovation

15) Public Welfare Foundation Announces Special Initiative on Paid Sick Days

You are encouraged to go to the site and see all of the resources available so that anyone can successfully find the financial resources to assist with providing any type of opportunity in the community, the church, the school, tutoring, after school programs, sports, etc. Most of these grants require effort but not the massive amount of time and paperwork that a Federal Grant would require. Before you dismiss the thought give it a try... What could you do or what would you do if there were no barriers? If money is one of the barriers that keep you from some of your ideas find an answer here at this web site and cross one more excuse off for any inaction on your part!

Let me know what has been your results with pursuing grants and any other resources for funding that you have used!

If you don't know where you are going, you will probably end up somewhere else.

-Laurence J. Peter